Movie Boyfriend of the Year: Wade from Pixar's ELEMENTAL

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People were saying this was going to be generic and "Pixar's biggest flop", then they actually saw the movie and it turned out to be a great romantic comedy! It’s not subtle with its fire and water metaphor for characters from different cultures falling for each other but it’s very heartfelt and sweet. Such a great time!

When Wade said "you must have felt so scared" that really stuck out to me. I thought it was really cool to see that kind of empathy represented.

I SOBBED when Ember got on her knees and honored her father. That was healing for both of them.

SPOILER WARNING! I wish you guys had covered the scene in the end where Ember bows to her father and he bows back. The fact that his father did not return his respect hurt him deeply and she gave him the opportunity to heal that wound by not repeating the trauma behaviour. That scene hit me so hard for such a small detail.

What I realized while watching your video, is the scene with Ember admitting to herself that she doesn’t want the shop, Wade doesn’t say a darn thing! He doesn’t say “so don’t run the shop“ or “ what do you want?“ he just listens. Period. 10/10

As the daughter of immigrants, watching this with my boyfriend of a different race, it was interesting seeing where we both cried in the film. Every time Ember talked about being a bad daughter and asking how do you prepay a sacrifice that big, I was sobbing because I have asked myself that question a million times over. When Wade and Ember would fight and he’s trying to understand her and she’s just blowing up at him and saying how different they are, my boyfriend cried because he said he knows what it feels like to be on the other side of that fight, of just trying to understand the girl he loves. Once again, Pixar nailed representing complicated relationships in a meaningful way!!!

The line that got me was when Ember tells her Dad she doesn't want to run the shop, which was his dream. And he says, "That was never the dream, you were the dream".😢❤

Can we take a moment to appreciate that when Ember plays the crying game instead of wade using her pain and her issues to push her to cry (which is what i initially expected to happen) he opens himself to her and confesses his honest feelings towards her, which in turn causes her to cry because she too feels the same way 😢 ugh SO PERFECT!

wade and ember’s relationship has to be the most compassionate yet realistic relationship i have seen in disney. instead of arguing or dismissing ember’s experiences and culture, he says he doesn’t understand but still tries to connect with her like he does with everybody. he doesnt want her to change herself and rather loves ember as she is. i love wade so much. 😭

I would like to stress how supportive Ember's dad is, when through the whole movie you are convinced that he probably would not giving his own trauma. No, he is a much bigger man than his father was. And that is all what truly wonderful parents want: their child happiness.

I loved this movie so much. My favorite part about the Vivisteria scene is how Wade wasn't even focused on the injustice of her not being able to see the flower. He's focused on how she was unsafe in the face of prejudice. I thought that was so beautiful and masterfully done.

When she tells him about the vivisteria and she's angry and he just says "you must have been so scared..." reminded me of my therapist when I tell him things that are absolutely scary but I have resolved them into a funny anecdote or a grievance. Beautifully written.

I love that Wade doesn't hesitate to comfort Ember during her breakdown at the beach, and reassures her that she's doing her best. Even when she states that she's a mess, he retorts that she's EVEN MORE beautiful, since she's opening up to him, and not bottling up her emotions. May we ALL have a partner like Wade. 😍

My partner is real life Wade. He’s the sweetest, kindest, most caring person I know. He helped me cope with my anger attacks, he’s always there to comfort me, and he helped me overcome my fears of cats and being on Ferris wheels. We met in the dorm we shared, and he… well, he was scared of my “explosive personality”. But time went on and we bonded over interests we shared, we began to talk about our insecurities to each other. Babe, if you’re reading this, thank you for everything. You got my back, and I got yours too. I love you.

Ember is her most open, and able to connect, when she is creating something. She's closed off with Wade's family until she makes the pitcher, she is hiding under her hood until she wants to blow smoke rings for the kids nearby. Even when she is running the shop, her most comfortable is when she is making charcoal, or fixing damaged metal or glass. Wade connects to people through raw empathy, ember connects to people by her creations and how that makes others feel. Which is what ultimately drew themselves to each other. Wades ability to emote freely unrestrained was what ember loved him for, Wade talks about how her light changes everything around her, the light she gives off.

One thing that struck me as Wade being really insightful and empathetic when I saw the movie was his response to Ember's story about not being allowed to see the flower when she was little. My mind would have gone to a kid in that situation feeling disappointed, heartbroken, angry, etc. but Wade said "you must have been so scared." A little girl seeing all the other adults being hostile to her and her father, her father getting angry and raising his voice... That could be terrifying to a little kid. I would never have thought of that.

The first thing I thought when watching this film was "Wade is such a manic pixie dreamboy". He is an incredibly healthy representation of masculinity and I strive to be more like him.

What makes me so mad is that it failed at the box office. They worked on this movie for years! I went and saw it at the theatre four times. I adored how beautiful the animation was and how healthy the relationship was. I vried every time. Gosh, this movie was beautiful to me!

Crying can be a physical release for overflowing emotions, even happiness. So Alan, maybe Pixar makes you cry so much because the beauty makes your happiness overflow (except for the gut wrenching tears). I think you feel emotions very intensely, and the tears are literal overflow. It’s absolutely beautiful.