The Radical Nature of Jesus’ Teaching on Marriage

Published 2024-04-18
Jesus' teaching on marriage (and particularly on divorce and remarriage) is so radical that his stunned disciples respond, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is not expedient to marry” (Matt. 19:10). So what is Jesus' radical teaching, and why don't more Christians know about (or follow) that teaching? And is it true that Jesus creates an "exception" for divorce and remarriage in cases of adultery? (Answer: no.)

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  • I know many people that converted from Calvinism to Christianity because of the good work of Catholic Answers. ✝️✝️✝️
  • @tonyl3762
    Engaged couples in pre-marriage prep at parishes should have to watch this.
  • My father divorced my christian mom and she did exactly that you said, she considered herself married to him even wheb he moved on and "remarried" had kids and so on. My mom is one of the most cared woman by God that I know, so many times she was conforted by Him emotionally, spirituality and financially, I can't keep counting it. God can make a horrible situation good if we keep believing him (doing the hard things He asks us). Our Lord is so good always!
  • @5991BT
    I'm currently in the process of joining RCIA at my local parish. My wife is a protestant and previously divorced. So... I need her to understand that she needs her marriage annulled not only for the "eyes of men" as she would say but in the eyes of God to do right and to bring grace in our marriage now. This video I'm going to show her and I pray she doesn't be to overly critical but I do believe you have made it so simple on why the church does not condone divorce or remarriage

    Thanks Joe!
  • @pendletondrew
    Let's goooo! Thanks, Joe! You never disappoint! My wife and I talked about this a lot. Nobody gets married to get divorced, but it is not an option for us and this is something that pushes us to love each other harder when things are rough, among other things of course. Lol. Growing up in a broken home sucked. I don't blame my Dad, he was left by unfaithful women, but recognizing that, in the truest way possible, my wife and I made our promises to each other before God and He will continually call us to go deeper as long as we call upon Him when things are tough has made it awesome even when things aren't. Lol. Being married to my wife has made me love God more and more and perhaps this is why some Christian marriages fail, when one or both people forget that the marriage covenant is not merely a promise to another person but to God as well.
  • @benabaxter
    My favorite gag in Intolerable Cruelty is the name of the divorce lawyer organization: National Organization of Matrimonial Attorneys, Nationwide, or NOMAN. Its motto, of course, is: "What God has joined together, let NOMAN put asunder."

    It's the same gag as Chesterton's joke about building ever larger needles and breeding ever-smaller camels---as if we can loophole our way out the the demands of the Gospel.
  • @jameskeith352
    Catholic convert here. This is a topic I have been meaning to look into because a lot of my former Baptist brethren/friends are okay with divorce and remarriage whereas the Church is not. This was super helpful. Thank you Joe!
  • I've been longing to here a clear teaching on this for the last 20 years as a "protestant" with both my parents divorced and remarried. The internal struggle regarding my parents divorces and my relationship to them has resurfaced this last week being more intense than ever almost consuming my soul all day and now it appears I know why; God knew I would be hearing this today. Thank you for your work once again!!! I now have a road map to navigate this territory and light to see where I am and where I need to go!
  • @PatrickSteil
    Adding this video to our RCIA chapter on Marriage! So good!!!
  • In our transition from Protestantism to Catholicism, my wife and I were discussing this topic at length for quite some time. We had the presuppositions from Protestantism color our view of the subject. This was quite the illuminating video.
  • It seems to me that an acceptance of divorce and remarriage among Protestants makes sense given their divorce from Christs Church. If marriage is the clearest human picture of Christ and the church then if you can leave the church and start a new one you can leave your marriage and start a new one.
  • @jimmydavid1993
    The Clearest explanation of the biblical harmonious intolerance for divorce that I have ever heard. While I have never cared about it purely based on trust in the Church's position. I have a better appreciation of this teaching today. Joe is a gem. His explanation or arguments just hit the punches far more than...... God bless you, Joe! What Joe has taught let no one argue otherwise🤪
  • This is the most detailed and logical analysis of this topic I have ever seen.
  • @josh39684
    It's the best day of the week... Shameless Poppery just dropped another episode. The Protestant church I attend allows divorce and remarriage so this was very helpful. Thanks Joe!
  • @DenverDias
    To actually read the Bible is to cease to be a pr*testant.
  • Love how methodical these videos are. I don't know any other apologetics channel that always fully anticipates and addresses every one of my possible thoughts and objections on the topic.
  • Home run, Joe...the best, most clear, concise, systematic, ironclad apologetic I've ever heard or read on one of the most important issues in life. (And I have processed more than a few of them.)

    It also happens to be the one where the sandy foundations of Protestantism are most clearly manifested. I say this as a former pastor who went through a personal holocaust--much of it of my own making--eleven years ago when my wife of 32 years and five kids divorced me. As I went through the no-fault, civil divorce process in the "Family Court" system (now there's an oxymoron if there ever was one) and also processed it ecclesiastically through the hodgepodge of varying opinions and the utter impotence of the faux judicial "system" (when it comes to this subject, there really isn't one) that wafts up out of the Protest-anthill, I realized I was facing the obverse side of a brass sestertius I was very familiar with, one that had been forged in the fires of hell. (The reverse side is abortion--an issue I had been very involved in fighting for over thirty years. Abortion, aka child sacrifice, destroys the fruit of a one-flesh union. The obverse is divorce, which destroys--really murders--the root.)

    And then it hit me: There is one--and only one--Church that is still standing strong for "the radical nature of Jesus' teaching on marriage." (Well, at least as far as her dogmatic position on the issue. Sadly, like so many other truths that have been compromised and even lost in the practice of the Catholic faith in so many peoples' hearts and minds (laity and clerics alike), divorce and remarriage have been normalized to a tragic degree. (Some dioceses grant annulments at rates of 90% and higher. Really?))

    It was soon after all the ravaging winds had calmed down that I kicked up my quest for the church Jesus truly founded a couple of notches. And after more pain, repentance, and crying out to the un--doer of knots to dispose of the Gordian-sized one I was dragging around behind me, I entered the Catholic church (swam the Bosphorus Strait, rather than the Tiber if anyone cares) four Easters ago. And this issue is one I will always be passionate about. The diabolical realm's prime directive is to attack and destroy the Domestic Church, the family. (If that domino falls, every other one eventually falls as well.) And while many new fronts have opened up in this ultimate battle (artificial contraception, porn, the demasculization of boys and men, public schools, the normalization of sex and gender confusion, inflation (making it financially difficult for the wife to stay home and out of the workforce), mRNA vaccines, the denaturing of our foods, I can go on), the two main gates into Isengard are divorce and infanticide.
  • @ToddJambon
    Another great video from The Hesch, which I just decided is your new nickname.
  • @bearistotle2820
    Joe, you are the first person to explain what the "porneia" clause actually refers to. I had always thought the church's approach was confusing and wondered where it originated. Thank you for explaining this so well!
  • @retrocalypse
    Good grief this finally makes sense to me! THANK YOU! I had my 'marriage' annuled a few years back. I'm much wiser now at 50. Ten years alone now and knowing what marriage really is I can definitely say I won't be doing it. lol Love you, Joe!