Why We Always Feel Bad and Guilty

There's also the "I am as a person wrong, I should not exist" version. No matter what you do, how much you try, you just feel like a glitch your entire life. I wonder how that comes about.

My parents are very well aware of how badly they screwed up with me because every time I bring up past memories they get very defensive. (40 now)

Saying NO is an act of self-care and self-respect, allowing you to prioritize your own needs and best interests. It is not selfish or rude, but rather a healthy and necessary boundary to set for yourself. By saying NO, you are saying YES to yourself and making sure that your own well-being is a top priority.

The only thing different for me is I tend to skew "suicide" not "jail." But yeah, when you're a horrible person whose existence hurts everyone else, you just want to remove yourself from the world and all the reminders of the many ways in which you suck.

Social anxiety, Toxic shame and Complex Trauma explained in 3 minutes.

This video sadly is so relatable to me, you begin to question everything about yourself because it always seem it’s your own personal fault. Looking back at past mistakes and wishing you could change them, you have to learn that you won’t be able to, but you do learn that it makes you a better person for the future. Love yourself and you can accomplish anything, despite your flaws, you’re still amazing.

The worst thing is that this feeling is brought into adult life. And society does treat them as guilty!

I’ve been guilty of something all my life. Spent half of the time hiding. This video is so amazing.

I remember taking driving lessons and we got stuck in traffic. The teacher asked me why I was getting stressed. I said I felt I was doing something wrong to cause this jam. He smiled and said "ah, you're one of those" 😅

It’s so sad to see how many people relate to this ( including myself) but with the new year coming I want to go commit to growing past this 🙏🏽

But unfourtunately, the people who should feel guilty for mistreating their children, now and in the past, don't feel guilty at all.They have the best excuses at hand, up to the one:" If you didn't behave that way and triggered me, we would have gotten along just fine and I would have loved you the way you wanted me to."

And hence most parents who have not processed their own traumas should not be parents. We are intrinsically whole, but many upbringings tell us otherwise

So... how do I get rid of it? .. I'm so tired of making it up to people I've never wronged... and feeling guilty for everything I do.

I grew up with a persistent feeling of guilt. It was so bad that I saw a counsellor when I was 14 and cried, telling her I held so much guilt inside but didn't know where it came from. I told her guilt had been there my whole life and that it was the main emotion I feel. I always compared myself to everyone else and wondered why can't I be like them? It was just guilt that I wasn't good enough and that I was the cause of all my parents problems. Some of my guilt slowly went to anger and then finally to pain. But to survive we have to blame ourselves not the people around us, because if we didn''t it would've threatened our survival... the pain we internalise for things done to us not our fault

What we all have to remember is we are human. Emotional beings. Be kind to yourselves and walk away from negativity if it gets too much. Sometimes its only a phase people go through. This journey is full of ups an downs and there is an end for us all. Enjoy it and don’t pressure yourself. Much love all from a ex self loather ❤️

I was literally thinking abt this and googling about it just 2 minutes ago. I feel guilty about enjoying anything be it watching a movie or eating good food. I feel guilty just thinking about my parents. If I'm upset i feel like punishing myself by taking away something I love. When I see underprivileged people or animals I feel guilty about the life I have. Its horrible feeling and I try to ignore it to my best. Considering talking to a therapist, idk why I cant open up to one, maybe I subconsciously feel they'll judge me or wont understand me or will say that I'm just pretending

I feel so called out. I always fear offending others and always fear the guilt. Religions play guilt the best in my opinion as a cycle to keep flocks in control.

It's unnerving how precisely in time for me this video was published, thank you

Last night, a part of my past showed up in a nasty way. It made its way into the life I was trying to build without it and I finally thought I had done so. I have worked hard in therapy to stop calling myself a bad person, but last night made all those feelings come back. On top of that I experienced a rejection last night and all I can do is think about what I did wrong or why I’m not good enough, even though this person has explained at nausea and it’s not me that’s the issue. Amazing the timing of this video.

We crucify ourselves for the wrongs done to us by our loved ones because we believe that we're not enough for the image that we have created of them in our heads, that we constantly run to for cover from the outside world.