Verbal Processing: Do you talk too much? (the reason we constantly interrupt)

I don't at all prefer to read out loud, but interestingly, I totally prefer to talk out loud when I'm thinking, instead of keeping it in my head.

I’ve struggled with this my whole life!!!! I’m not trying to be rude, it means I’m actually engaged in the conversation.

I'm honestly in tears I never hear anyone talk about this, especially the suppression battle and going into every interaction consciously holding back so much

Auditory processing is SO difficult for me! I think I don't hear correctly, but then 10 seconds later the words arrive at my brain. But reading is my favorite way to absorb info. Taking notes helps me to listen, too. 😊

I've learned to clamp down on my jaw and keep telling myself, "Let the man finish", (or woman). Doesn't always work though.

My daughter is a verbal processor. In school she often got in trouble for talking in class. If a teacher reprimanded her for talking, she would "zone out". One teacher told me she timed her and my daughter didn't appear to be aware of what was going on around her for about an hour and a half after being told to stop talking. After all, if you can't engage with your environment, what can you do? You go in your head and continue the conversation there. I've told teachers that my daughter needs to tutor others so that she can learn the material. They don't get it. How can she help others if she is struggling? I tried to explain that that's how she learns; she has to say it. They can't understand how she can teach something she doesn't know until she teaches it. I'm telling you, that's the way it is. I've been told "That's not how we teach." To which I respond, "That's how she learns!"

This is one of your talks for which I wish their was something stronger than the like button! Oh, my! Primarily a verbal processor, which doesn't work so well with being alone most of the time! So, I talk as if to other people whether they are present, listening, or not... I don't care anymore about looking strange! Have long said that "weird" is simply "wired" spelled differently...

OMG, seriously?!?!?!?!?!? Interrupting can be a form of listening????? This resonates so deeply with me! AT LAST I FEEL UNDERSTOOD!!!! 😃 Thank you, Paul! Thank you so much for this!

Strangely, reading out loud makes it a lot more difficult for me to understand the information, like my voice is distracting me from the information in the text.

If I dont say what I want to say at that second and wait for the other person to finish, I will forget what I was going to say and also forget what they were saying. I need constant repetition or I forget alot.

I forget what I was going to say, when I hold my thoughts in too long. I try not to cut into the conversation too many times and then I forget what I wanted to add into the conversation.

This is so good. I constantly feel like I'm holding myself back in social situations and I'm so unsure of what's appropriate to say, so I end up saying nothing. But when I'm with someone I'm comfortable with, I can talk and talk and talk and I interrupt all the time, but it's usually with anecdotes to show I'm interested and understand what they're saying. I also talk to myself all the time when I'm alone, usually about topics I'm trying to understand better. This makes so much sense!

I have done this my whole life unintentionally as well as a lot of other things we Aspies do. It feels so good to understand those things and know now what I didnt know 30 years ago.

I'd never thought about it like this before! The amount of times I've said "Sorry, just thinking out loud, don't mind me"!

With me, it's different. I can't hear the vocal cue that tells people, "I'm through speaking now. Your turn." Therefore, I never know when it's safe to start speaking.

I am so bad for this, I really have to work on it all the time. Funnily though, I have a friend that is adhd and when we talk together lots of the time we actually talk over the top of each other and still can make sense of it all. Neither of us is offended cos we just carry on regardless to finish what we’re saying. I actually find it amusing that we can do it, cos it’s rare amongst people to get away with it and still have a successful conversation. Well it works for us anyway.🤣

You just changed my life. I was on a 35 year journey to understanding, why I can’t have a satisfactory dialogue for me and the other party and why I keep interrupting, no matter how hard I try.

Ignorance of this might be the root of all the drama in the world.

In fact, this is what should be taught in schools.

"Let me finish my sentence" - and they look deep into my eyes with silence. Secret thoughts inside me: "Just talk then! TALK! Why did you stop talking? And don't look at me like this, it's aggressive and intimidating and I've done nothing to deserve it. TAAAALK for heaven sake, finish your sentence and leave me alone." And they will be happy because I let them finish their sentence. And I'll forever try to avoid any further interaction with them.