Let's talk about bio parents in foster care adoption

I think it’s best for children to decide how they feel about their bio parents. Putting bio parents down doesn’t help the child. I think a lot of bio parents never dealt with their own trauma which caused their children to be abused or neglected. For many kids they may love their parents but hate what they did or are doing. I can say from personal experience I grew up with an alcoholic father. I care about him but I hate how he cared more about drinking vs his kids. I agree with you about having an open discussion about their bio parents. We should focus on what is best for the child. Completely forgetting their first parents isn’t always the best thing for the child.

Excellent thoughts. We hear about this topic a lot.

Our girls see their bio mum every month. They are their maternal bio grandparents and aunts just as they do their other grandparents.

More people need to SUBCRIBE and see your content! Thank you for yet another caring, thoughtful, and thought-provoking conversation. More people need to hear this, because most of us think as you pointed out in too black and white terms of bio parents= always bad, when many bio parents have been in the foster care system themselves as children Every family will have a different story to navigate, and contact with some unsafe bio parents would obviously not work, but nuance is important. I feel your children will have a better chance at becoming well-adjusted adults with your level of appropriate contact and fairness to both sides in your particular situation. What a gift to your children AND their bio family, even though I think it could be challenging at times for you or any adoptive parent, but it seems like the long-term healthiest way forward. I especially loved your efforts to point out positive traits, etc, to your children inherited or learned from their bio parents. Wow. As someone with no kids and in the considering/learning stage of adopting older children from foster care, I always learn a lot from your videos and it is not sugar coated and a lot of the info is not info I hear from other sources. Please keep up your important work helping kids and families. Thank you!

Thank you for this video. May I ask, what do your kids call you? Is it mom as well? I will definitely be subscribing.

The woe is me argument makes no difference. Forget the previous family whenever possible.